It can be tough to tell a friend that you need space.
Sure there are ways, like, “I’m gonna be away for a while. Do you want to meet for a drink?” or “I’m in the middle of a long project. I think we should hang out and talk.” but the truth is, you will probably never get a response to “I’d like to hear more about your project”.
The truth is that you cannot tell anyone about your project or that you need space because, for better or worse, it is usually a secret you don’t want to share. This doesn’t mean that you can’t tell someone your most intimate secrets, but it is a good idea to keep them to yourself unless you want to be forced to share them with someone else.
Some people are always curious about what others need. This can be a good thing, but it is a danger. As soon as your secret is out, you will instantly have to share it with someone else. This could ruin your project, or the project might be damaged by it. If you do decide to let everyone know about your project, try to keep it brief and to the point.
One way to tell if someone needs to move is that they seem to be doing something at a very odd time, or at all. When you’re in a bad traffic situation, you should avoid trying to chat all the while. Doing so makes it seem like you are going to need more space or are going to be late because you just ran into a wall or something.
A better way to show that someone needs space is by talking less when you need to. If someone is talking all the time, that person might not have a clue how to solve a problem. And if you’re constantly asking for space, it should really be a good thing.
Sure, we can all try to chat a bit more when we need to. But you should start by telling your friend where you are and then give them a bit of a hint about what you are up to. This will also help you feel less like you are running around the room in a panic.
I’ve always found it hard to just tell people where I am because I always feel like I am running in circles. To put it simply, I tend to think of myself as someone who likes and talks to lots of people all the time. I have a lot of friends and my friends know that I talk to them, but I can’t seem to get them to talk to me, let alone ask me for space.
That is why I think it is best to set up a system of communication. This can be as simple as telling them you are out and not to call you. Ive also found this works well if they are talking to someone else or they are simply talking to their friends. If you have been in a relationship that is going on, you can use this same technique to let them know you are not in a relationship but you do need their space.
This is a common problem. People get divorced and they have no idea what to do with their ex-spouse. They leave and don’t tell their friends, so they’re no longer “friends”. They may also be afraid to tell their friends because of the possible fallout with their ex-spouse. In these situations, it pays to set up a system of communication.
