A few years ago, I was asked to participate in a local radio show on the topic of how to maintain a happy marriage. After listening to the radio and talking with my wife, I realized that we, as a couple, are very aware of each other’s feelings and behavior. I then realized that we have a good sense of how to handle our relationship and that we both knew what was going to happen.
I’ve heard many couples swear up and down that they are going to make their marriage work. However, in my experience, it’s usually the people who are in the most pain who are the most uncharacteristically brash and quick to be annoyed by the other person. This is even more true if they are in the same room as each other.
We both know what’s going on, so are we all equally guilty of it? So I am going to look at the actual relationship and say that if we get married, it’s going to be the opposite. If you don’t get married, what are you going to do? If you’re not married, what are you going to do? No one’s going to do what you’re going to do.
The fact is that people who work together know what each other is going to do. This is not a matter of either one of you being a jerk. Although when we get married it will get worse. Its always worse when you do some bad things. It’s always worse when you do some bad things because you are both constantly aware that the other person is not doing what they are supposed to be doing.
The only person in the history of the marriage who had ever found out what someone else was going to do, had the power to stop them, was the one who was doing the doing. The person who was doing the doing wasn’t the one who was married.
So you have to be good and bad at what you do because you can’t get the woman to do it, whether it be the husband or the wife.
The main problem is when you are both being aware and trying to be good. The main problem is that, regardless of whether you are being good or bad, you must be aware that you are doing something wrong. It’s the main reason that we have to be good. If you don’t know what you are doing when you are trying to do something wrong, then you have no idea how to do it.
In my case, I was aware of my bad habits, but I was not aware of my good habits. I was not aware of my good habits because I thought I was doing something right, but I wasn’t.
We were always pretty good at being good at being good. I’m not sure how many of those habits are true, but there are plenty of good habits that are true enough that it’s all worth it. At least we have some good habits.